Marriage – a purpose-driven decisionIn life, the choices we make are often purpose-driven whether we know it or not. Imagine you were invited to an event. To determine what to wear (more consequential for some than others), your main consideration would be what the event is for. What you would wear for a wedding would certainly be different from what you would choose if attending a burial. You want to buy a card or a gift for someone. Of course there are so many cards to choose from. What to buy? Who is it for and what is it for? You would not pick out a get well card for a friend celebrating their graduation.
Then there are those moments and for those things we are not entirely sure about or we have a wrong perception of the purpose. And in those instances, our choices become more of chance and yes, chances are that we could go wrong.
Let’s apply this to relationships. So many people want to get married. But to do so, you must first make the choice of who to marry. That choice is based on your perception of what marriage is all about. If you want someone to showcase, your choice will probably be largely based on physical appearance. If it is out of pressure because your peers are all married, it’s no worse than gambling cos now it’s about obtaining “the” status by all means. For financial security, people have chased after money.
As a buffer for insecurities, some have married people who make them feel good about themselves, but no one has the responsibility of keeping you happy and fulfilled. Others have perceived it as the solution to their challenges at the time. Soon enough they discover that the marriage is whatever both bring into it. Marriage is a union of two into one whole that is meant to mirror the covenant relationship of Christ and the church. It is a union to accomplish divine purpose while enjoying companionship based on unconditional love.
In a nutshell: Before you make the choice of who to marry, you need to carefully consider why you want to get married. An understanding of the purpose of marriage as the One who instituted it (God) ordained it is key to both being the person to marry as well as making the right decision of who to marry
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall become united and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. [Genesis 2:24; Amplified]
To do: Ask yourself, why do I want to get married? Will that reason(s) help you make the right choice?